University and friends

Insights.

As of late I realised I have been really busy with school work and stuff. I know its a recurring theme in university but today I had a sense of enlightenment that you only have 24 hours in a day. You simply cannot do everything you want.

Firstly you would need to have a social life. Let's just say you have 5 friends in university and you have to maintain your relationship with them you have to input hours of your life to spend with them. Don't get me wrong here, I enjoy spending time with them. But here in lies the problem of you guys having different timetable. You need to make compromises and set a time. It takes two hands to clap and to have a meeting both parties have to give and take.

This brings me to the next point whereby what if you have more than 5 friends. How it is possible to be able to spend time with all of them, let's say 20 friends. You have put in 4 times the effort to maintain the friendship. There may be overlapping of friendship and all but there comes the clashing of schedules. Not all of you take the same mods or have the same timetable. Finding a time to meet would be very difficult.

And this is the point whereby you have to make the hard choice of letting go. I know it sounds cruel but such is life. You got to choose your priorities. Not only do you have the need for a social life, you need to have time for you schoolwork and your hobby, which in my case is DotA. Inevitably, we would not have sufficient time for everything and the only thing we would decrease in would be the time spent with friends

There would always come a point in life whereby you would let go of people. By letting go, it means getting rid of the toxic friends. Those who you want to spend time with, but they do not want to accommodate you in their life. You get rid of these people. They don't believe that you are worth their time and please, just let go of them.

Next up, would be the hi-bye friends. Yes, you may have been groupmates the previous semester and all but this semester, you all do not take the same mods. You all simply do not have the same topics to talk about and sad to say, the friendship would only go downhill. It would be good to cut them off as soon as you can so that you can put your time to better use.

However, my point is not to delete everyone out of your life like putting files into the recycling bin. You just have to sort out the priorities, the ones that matter. You would know deep down inside, who are the ones that you do not one to let go. Those who would spend time with you willingly. The people who you call at 3am to ask them to DotA and they would answer your phone but scold you in the morning. And most importantly, your family. These people are the ones who you care about, these people are the ones who matter.

The rush of university life has hit me and I have decided to make a change, I am going to let go of these people and cherish those who believe I matter to them. Because sometimes in life, you just gotta let it go.

"You got 24 hours only. You will pick and choose people who you value more. Which means not picking other people who you don't give a fuck about and it's okay"

Cheers
Han Ren